GLORIA ESTEFAN TALKS ABOUT SUPPORTING HER DAUGHTER EMILY BEFORE SHE CAME OUT

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«‘Do you want to carry the gay flag, because if you want, I will get on that parade float with you and I will carry that flag,'» the Grammy winner said.

Image: Gloria Estefan and her daughter Emily Estefan

By Drew Weisholtz

Gloria Estefan says she had her daughter Emily’s back before she came out.

“We had no clue,” the “Bad Boy” singer said about Emily being gay in a clip from a new episode of «Red Table Talk: The Estefans» that features her, Emily and Gloria’s niece, Lili.

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«You say, ‘How could we not have known?’ It’s not like I didn’t suspect at some moments,» Estefan said.

«I remember being in my bedroom and I remember telling you, ‘Mama, are you gay?'» Estefan continued. «‘Do you want to carry the gay flag, because if you want, I will get on that parade float with you and I will carry that flag.'»

Estefan said her daughter denied she was gay.

«And at that moment, you said to me, ‘Mom, I’m not gay.’ Because that wasn’t the word in your mind for who you were,» she said.

«I was also figuring out who I am,» Emily responded.

In another clip, Emily, who has been dating girlfriend Gemeny Hernandez for nearly four years, talked about the agony she endured about coming out.

“We started to date and I knew that there was something different here. At that time, nobody knew we were together and we had already been dating for a couple months,» she recalled. «We were taking things slow on our own. When I was finally ready to come out with this information, I was really nervous.”

Emily said the her mother’s reaction was not good.

“I was like, ‘Hey, I’m in love with this girl. The first thing you said was, ‘If you tell your grandma and she dies, her blood is on your hands,’” she said, choking back tears.

“I just wasn’t ready for that because I understand my grandma was old, but it made it feel like, ‘OK, whatever it is, hide it, it’s not OK.’ So, that’s where my hurt started. I’m never going to forget that.”

“Just like you were in that turmoil of emotion, you’re remembering things, as we all tend to do, in a different way,” her mother said.

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What does it feel like to have words like THIS written about you? I’ll let you know when I have an answer.. for now.. I’m just a glowing puddle. I love you. Each and every word you write elevates me. (about me or not) I can’t wait for the world (and you) to see what you’re capable of. #Repost @holagemeny ・・・ “What do you have to say about our anniversary?” she asks, as if my love for her could ever find it’s resting place among the curling lines of letters turned words. It can’t. What do you do when your life comes to a stop as a result of one meeting, one person? How do you cope? Where do you go? I imagine these are things I would’ve asked myself if I had any choice in the matter. But I didn’t. You see, you swept me. You took me from my standing place and catapulted me to a new world. A brand new place, a most beautiful universe unlike anything I had every seen. (I know now I could only have reached it with you holding my hand.) There is love in every corner here. And not the kind of love you might think I’m referring to. Not flowers, chocolates, and poor-rhyme-scheme love. True love. Good love. Our love. Love that permeates every piece of its surroundings. Love that chokes you, shakes you, scares you, illuminates you, heals you, awakens you. Love that pours so much of itself into you, you can’t help but become it. Love that is so loud, everything else is just background noise. And it looks so much like you. I have lived every one of the last 365 days of my life lost in this beautiful place, this beautiful love. Lost in you, and the extraordinary honor of loving you. You are light, you are beauty, you are home, and you are all that I aspire to be. I don’t know where you came from, but I am sure glad you are here. To 1, to 2, to 20 lifetimes more. I love you. Yours, fully, Moon Flower P.S. Hearing our voices together is the closest I’ve been to heaven.

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Emily says she experienced depression because she felt she could not be honest about who she was.

“I was falling apart. I wanted to be strong and act like I was cool, but my life went on pause,” she said.

Her mother said it was important for Emily to come out on her own terms instead of letting other seize the moment.

“I wanted it to be your story! I thought that you had told me you weren’t ready, and I didn’t want to give your story to some person … to post,” Gloria said.

A previous version of this story was first published in TODAY.com.

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